I've been dating someone for about seven months. He's a great person in so many ways. Unfortunately, he's also a very busy person. He's got a child and he's a graduate student trying to finish his thesis. He's also a bit of an entrepeneur and is trying to start his own business. This doesn't leave a lot of time for me. For a while I was ok with this, or at least I tried to be. I worked on tolerating the discomfort of uncertainty caused by not knowing exactly when I would see him again. I worked on giving myself attention when I felt lonely instead of expecting to get it from him all the time. I worked on accepting him as he is and learning to love him for him as opposed to loving him for how he could meet my needs.
But lately I'm just not happy. I have a hard time trusting my perception of the way things are though. Maybe he's giving me enough attention and I'm trying to get him to fulfill a need that I should be meeting myself. How do I know how much attention is "enough?" Is it fair for me to ask for more than he's able to give? Am I being too demanding?
I know that no one can really answer these questions for me. It just helps me sometimes to get my thoughts out of my mind and onto paper.