Sunday, May 9, 2010

Finances and Getting Ahead

My boyfriend and I were recently having a discussion and it became apparent that our philosophies on the subject were fundamentally different.  I started a second job a few weeks ago and was complaining to him that I really don't like it and want to quit.  He stated that the second job is a way for me to "get ahead" and to "better myself."  He explained that I shouldn't be satisfied making the amount of money I'm making at my current job - it's really just enough to make ends meet with a little left over - and there's no significant raise or promotion in my near future.  He said that it's important in life to constantly be working to better yourself.  He proposed that for me, bettering myself includes becoming more financially stable.  That means I need to make more money.  Hence, the second job.

Now I'm all for bettering oneself but I also strongly believe that we should learn to be happy as we are and with what we have.  I went to college to do what I do for a living.  I knew I was never going to be rich when I chose to go into this profession.  I don't feel like I should have to work a second job that I don't like in the name of "bettering myself."  Why can't it be enough to make what I make, save what I can save, and enjoy whatever I can afford to enjoy?

This is one area where my boyfriend and I have agreed to disagree.  As for the second job -- I haven't decided whether or not I'm going to quit.  I'll keep you posted.


  1. I totally disagree with your boyfriend. If you don't like the second job, and it's diminishing your quality of life, drop it.

  2. Or...Start thinking out of the box. You can work smarter and leverage your time to make more money while maintaining or improving your quality of life.

    Entirely possible with your intellect and ability.



    That's all that matters. Usually, if you're doing something you absolutely love... $$$ will follow.

    If 2nd job = yuck... MOVE ON, PERIOD.

    You're not "bettering yourself" if you're not happy.



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