tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post4385114038268070325..comments2024-02-14T03:29:39.594-05:00Comments on This Is Me: Differentiationspldbchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05505641654468777964noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-24071963465376362452017-03-28T09:11:34.269-04:002017-03-28T09:11:34.269-04:00I think Self-differentiation is a great concept. I...I think Self-differentiation is a great concept. I once read somewhere that it starts when you see people in terms of the interactions & activities you engage with them, not the roles they/society have assigned to them. <br /><br /> For instance, instead of seeing someone as MY MOTHER, it might help to see such a woman as, <br /><br />"This is a woman with whom I live in the same house. She sometimes cooks food for both of us, while I sometimes run her errands. I usually tell her in great detail about my activities while away from her, while she volunteers her opinions on these stories. Whenever I won't return that day, I tell her in advance I won't come home." <br /><br />This method helps many people handle emotional fusion in families and marriages. As emotional fusion is not closeness!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-55810849909833223312016-09-03T09:12:30.795-04:002016-09-03T09:12:30.795-04:00Regarding the topic raised by Natalie, my opinion ...Regarding the topic raised by Natalie, my opinion is that differentiation is about being mindful and being able to set proper boundaries. And I have no doubt that healthy people, who are mindful, do set boundaries in any culture, present our past. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00376334620252203814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-53494091834874351062016-09-03T08:36:29.597-04:002016-09-03T08:36:29.597-04:00Regarding the topic raised by Natalie, my opinion ...Regarding the topic raised by Natalie, my opinion is that differentiation is about being mindful and being able to set proper boundaries. And I have no doubt that healthy people, who are mindful, do set boundaries in any culture, present our past. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00376334620252203814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-19207507862930010272011-08-21T14:02:03.652-04:002011-08-21T14:02:03.652-04:00Natalie --
I have thought about that, actually. Y...Natalie --<br />I have thought about that, actually. Your comment speaks to the differences in individualist versus collectivist societies, I think. I know there have been some studies that have examined whether the concept of differentiation holds up in non-Western cultures. I have to admit, though, that I haven't actually read any of the studies -- I just glanced over the titles as I was searching for something else. I might have to go back and see what I can find out. I'll let you know if I learn anything interesting.spldbchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05505641654468777964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-86939346063106883182011-08-17T21:01:18.877-04:002011-08-17T21:01:18.877-04:00A critique this theory often receives, however, is...A critique this theory often receives, however, is that "differentiation" is a very westernized ideal. For communal rather than individualistic cultures, healthy development may not appear like our image of proper independence. In fact, this idea has been used by professionals to disparage families and persons of color. So, everything in context!Natalie L. Hillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00819024936453125795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-79756312739094719632011-08-17T10:03:18.183-04:002011-08-17T10:03:18.183-04:00Really glad I found your blog, this is super infor...Really glad I found your blog, this is super informative and an interesting theory I hadn't heard of before. You're officially "followed". :)<br /><br />Tim.Tim.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11658275748365350793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6508287140975351636.post-74921167400763435722011-08-15T09:11:27.729-04:002011-08-15T09:11:27.729-04:00Will pass this along to my daughter.Will pass this along to my daughter.Fijufichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00626543577510367007noreply@blogger.com